• Disarming the Narcissist

  • Surviving & Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
  • By: Wendy T. Behary
  • Narrated by: Jo Anna Perrin
  • Length: 6 hrs and 20 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 05-12-2011
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio
  • 3.5 out of 5 stars 3.5 (4 ratings)

Publisher's Summary

Disarming the Narcissist is a step-by-step guide to treating and communicating with narcissists with compassion and empathy in a way that still preserves the listener's personal boundaries and sanity.
©2008 Wendy Behary (P)2011 Tantor
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"Behary's book will surely provide help to many in need of a confidence bolster in the face of provocation." ( Publishers Weekly)
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5 out of 5 stars
By Robin Eadha on 13-06-2016

Very valuable resource

I listened to this book in two sittings. So relevant to me in my habitual ways of communicating, and to the challenging relationships I have with certain others. I strongly recommend this book to others who, like me, might have explored many ways to understand what goes wrong in communication and who might still be looking for the ' how ' to negotiate the difficulties. I'll certainly be listening again and striving to put these skills into action.

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4 out of 5 stars
By Lawrence on 04-02-2013

Very Informative

This book had great information on how to deal with a narcissist that is in your life. Gave good examples of the dynamic that occurs in such relationships as well as ways to approach each issue.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Ruth on 23-04-2012

Clears the smoke put up by the Narcissist

Great information. The narcissist is a tricky and manipulative creature. This book puts them and their motives out in the open. There is also excellent information that teaches you the how's and why's they love to push all your buttons.

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1 out of 5 stars
By Seren29 on 07-03-2018

This author is a Flying Monkey!

This book will keep you in the abuse cycle longer and give the perpetrator new avenues to cause harm!Dangerous, victim-blaming, perpetrator-excusing. Do NOT listen to the things she tells you to do, this book will help you to become MORE invested and MORE entrapped in this abusive relationship, it will make it so much harder to leave than it is right now.
People who are in a relationship ALREADY KNOW that the abuser is damaged and in pain and have ALREADY tried everything in their power to support, love, be kind, compassionate, giving, choose their words carefully, choose their actions carefully, see EVERYTHING from the narcissist's point of view. Writing a book instructing people who are being abused by a narcissist to try harder/try a slightly different way or maybe just the same way of doing all those things is vile! She also counts only physical abuse as a reason to leave and gives no strategies for leaving.

The way she tells you to talk to a narcissist it is as though she has NEVER met one in her life, it is as though she thinks they will just sit there and listen to everything you say, you know, like a NORMAL person!
Maybe it's because she's only dealt with Narcissists when they have been forced by court to have therapy so they HAVE to appear to listen to her that she is so utterly deluded about how they behave towards their loved ones.

She wants you to feel sorry for narcissists, she wants you to try and re-mother them, she wants you to try again, bend yourself a little harder this time and, most dangerously I think, she wants you to believe that you have the power to CHANGE this disordered person. YOU CANNOT CHANGE A NARCISSIST! NOT EVER!

This Author is a massive Flying monkey!

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